Headband curls. The laziest way to do your hair that looks decent. Pinterest that noise.
avid reader. snobbish film enthusiast. trekker. potential future novel writer. charismatic introvert.
loves: crunchy leaves. french silk pie. coffee.
hates: ostriches. pencils. people sounds.
My Halloween costume is “Transient Occupant Of Hotel Room In Broken Arrow, Oklahoma.”
He is too pretty to handle. <3
People are complicated creatures. Friendships and relationships are complicated, then, by nature.
People can be mean, people can lie, people can overreact, people can be stubborn, and people can be careless.
But people can also be kind, people can be more honest than demanded, people can bend, people can have grace, and people can mend the bridges that divide their nations.
Everyone has things. Things that are going on, things that are tearing them down, things that consume them, things that overwhelm them, things that burden them, and things that blind them.
Be patient, be understanding, and be loving with those people that have those things. Be compassionate.
But it goes both ways. We need to be compassionate that our people have these things, and people need to be compassionate that we have these things.
It is a trade off. Sometimes we give, and sometimes we get to get. And although sometimes the giving must be patient and long endured, we eventually should be getting in return.
If we do not ever get, we end up giving too much of ourselves.
Some people are natural born givers, and they may give until they are gone. And there is no shame in that. They may be the most compassionate of us all.
But I cannot claim to never need. I am an introvert at heart. Giving is important and crucial, but it also drains me. I will be patient, understanding, and loving to those I care about for as long as I can, for years, for decades, perhaps. But eventually, after a long while, I grow weary. I don’t think there is shame in this either.
Sometimes people need to remove themselves from relationships when they look about themselves and notice too little remains. The too little creates resentments, and resentments do not help anyone. Sometimes compassion is easier to give from afar, when lives are not tethered together. I don’t think this is cruel. I think this is humane, compassionate in its own way to everyone.
And perhaps, once we fill back up, we will be able to give again.